Have You Got “A Mean Girl” Voice?

 

So em… I kinda dropped off the face of the earth there for a week eh?

All the training, and catching up on what I missed, really caught up with me and wiped me clean out.

I was a physical and emotional wreck by the end of the week tbh.

The ramifications were minor… the gym continued on, training got done, our house stayed in good shape and someone fed Lizzie…

But I could really notice myself getting antsy and feeling guilty about not contributing and doing more.

It’s funny how hard we can be on ourself right?

Sarah tells a story about “your mean girl voice” at her Better Life Project workshops that goes like this…

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When you’re having a bad day, or you do something silly, you beat yourself up.

You call yourself an idiot, worthless, you wonder how anyone could trust you, love you, care for you and how you’ll ever manage to do everything in life.

You REALLY go to town on all the things you hate about yourself, and why you suck.

And you don’t even realise you’re doing it.

It’s just “normal” now.

But imagine instead you said those things to your son or daughter, or your best friend, if they fucked up.

Would you insult them, harasss them, belittle them and demean them?

HELL NO.

You’d show empathy, soothe them and put forth compassion.

So, if you do it for everyone else, why the hell don’t you do it for yourself?

Why are you your own worst enemy?

Self care, gratefulness and “loving yourself” isn’t standing flexing in a mirror with tight clothes on and posting selfies so everyone can tell you how great you look.

It’s not being arrogant and thinking you’re a big swinging dick.

Self care, and “loving yourself” is about treating YOU with the same kindless, love and compassion you’d display to any other human being who is having a hard time.



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…and then she’d go on to explain how to make that happen.

I’m gonna let her guest post an email and blog this week for me so y’all can hear more about how to implement it in the real world.

But for now, here’s the final part of my 3 part series on the things I learned at the IPF’s International Coaching License: http://revolutionfitness.ie/lessons-ipf-international-coaches-license-day-3-finally/
In it I talk about some of the IPF’s more obscure rules, anti doping, and my key take aways and the things I’ll be implementing in my own training going forward.

Check it out in full here: http://revolutionfitness.ie/lessons-ipf-international-coaches-license-day-3-finally/

 

TL;DR – don’t be a dick to yourself, speak to yourself how you’d like to see others speak to your child / partner / best friend

James Hanley

Strength Coach. Performance Specialist. Dog Lover. Powerlifter. And the guy behind the scenes in RevFit that keeps the plates spinning.